Fostering with Pride

A young girl holding a rainbow umbrella, splashing in a large puddle.
The number of LGBT+ families adopting has seen a huge increase across the UK.

We pride ourselves on being an inclusive fostering service, welcoming people and families from all backgrounds.

Here in the borough of Rochdale, we believe Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and others (LGBTQ+) people and families have a key role to play in meeting the need for more foster carers for children in our borough who are in our care.

We want to reach out and encourage people within the LGBTQ+ community to come forward and consider fostering with us.

The number of LGBTQ+ families adopting has seen a huge increase across the UK. The Department of Education reporting 1 in 7 adoptions were by the LGBTQ+ community (2018 – 2019). Sadly the same cannot be said for foster carers yet, with the LGBTQ+ community being underrepresented.

Sarah and Emma's story

"For many years Emma and I have never doubted having or wanting children in our lives. We've been in a same-sex relationship for 12 years and during our relationship we've discussed fostering many times but we were always a little afraid as we are a gay couple.

"After seeing an advert to become foster carers with Rochdale Council which mentioned LGBTQ+ carers can apply, we decided this was the right time and applied there and then. The response was almost immediate and, sure enough, we had a visit about 2 weeks later by a social worker to discuss the fostering process and what to expect.

"Never was it even mentioned that we were a same-sex couple until much later in the process when we came to our personal testimonials where we discussed our lives and growing up, relationships, partners, family, so naturally being gay was part of this and we were comfortable enough with the social worker to open up and discuss our lives, knowing we were supported.

"Never did we feel in a minority or judged or different in any way. We were treated as a couple. We then attended Skills to Foster – an intense 3-day course with other future foster carers. Starting the journey on the course is where you gain valuable information on the process, children's issues, how to deal with various situations and the implications of fostering in your home.

"Some of these sessions were tough and really open your eyes to the realities of fostering and also the true rewards fostering can give. Again, never did we feel different or judged for being gay, we were just Emma and Sarah – potential new carers. I mean who wouldn't want 2 fab foster mums?

'It doesn't matter who you love, just share some of that love around'

"I think we were more concerned about the potential children we would be caring for and how they would feel about a same-sex couple looking after them, or indeed their parents' feelings about us. The Skills to Foster course and some positive words from our social worker answered these questions for us and gave us the confidence that these wouldn't be issues we couldn't overcome.

"Also, the fact we haven't had children in our lives and would we be at a disadvantage - never mind being gay.

"Again, our social worker made us feel at ease and gave us the confidence to continue with our journey.

"The assessment process is very intense but eased with our fabulous social worker who was there every step of the way. If a question popped up we could just message her and she would come back to us very quickly. It was her job to delve into every aspect of our lives, from birth upwards. Sometimes this could feel a little intrusive but we understood why they needed this information and in no way through this process did we feel judged or different due to our sexuality. In fact, with each session we felt more comfortable and building a strong bond with our social worker. We felt extremely supported and that has never changed from day one.

"Finally we are starting to feel the reality of becoming foster carers is imminent – we are so close to our panel date and ready to start making a difference to hopefully many children's lives.

"The world has changed - for the better. We are human beings, it doesn't matter who you choose to love, just share some of that love around."

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Get in touch

If you identify as LGBTQ+ and enjoy caring for children and young people, we would love to hear from you today.

Get in touch using the contact details on this page or join one of our information sessions to find out more.